by Frances Stone
Dan's Note: I did an interview with Talk Recovery Vancouver for Sobriety: A Graphic Novel a while ago. Frances was one of the interviewers I met. Since then, we've made a connection through writing. This very special gal has contributed a very special piece for Mother's Day (which, if I understand is the same day in Canada as in the USA). The opening is followed by her book excerpt, which I think you will be moved reading.
"Globally, one in three women has been a victim of violence by an intimate partner."
I never thought I would be a victim of violence, but I wonder why considering the odds set out by The World Health Organization. The way out, for me, was forgiveness, taking responsibility for my own choices and service—I entered into the process of recovery.
Today, I strive to co-parent effectively, supporting and raising three happy, loved and responsible children with a man that used to cause me immense emotional pain. He is still not my favourite person and vice versa, but we both have come to accept, appreciate and honour each other as parents. Our lives are no longer about our past; they are about our children’s future.
I am also a Co-Founder of The Single Mothers' Alliance BC, a grassroots non-profit community building, leadership and advocacy toolkit created and organized by single mothers for single mothers in British Columbia, Canada and Co-Host of Talk Recovery Vancouver, a show about Addiction and Recovery issues in Vancouver, BC.
The best gift I ever received was the gift of forgiveness. It set me free from my past and allowed me to enter into my future and to love my children with a full and grateful heart. This Mother’s Day, I invite you to give or receive the gift of forgiveness to see for yourself that Transformation is Real, Recovery is Possible, and Women, Families and Children DO Recover.
An excerpt from Frances' book
Intimate partner violence refers to behaviour by an intimate partner or ex-partner that causes physical, sexual or psychological harm, including physical aggression, sexual coercion, psychological abuse and controlling behaviours.